About Me

I Don't Share Cheesecake is my story of how self-examination eventually led to self-discovery. It's the story of how I stopped waiting for a marriage to complete me and began embracing my life as a party-of-one.  Marriage isn't about finding my "other half." That implies I am half a person and therefore, incomlete.  I am a whole person looking for a man who is also whole, to do life with; a marriage where we don't complete each other, we complement each other.  I don't need completing. Christ did that for me.  

This book is NOT a man-hating book.  I love good, men!  I want to be married one day, but what I will no longer do is put my life on hold for a wedding (which I don't really even want anymore. Let's just go to the courthouse with a couple of friends)  Until that day, if God has that for me, I will continue to adventure myself, chase my dreams and desires, follow God wherever He may lead me, and fully enjoy my life! IF and when God chooses to bring a man into my life, great, at least I can look back and say that I enjoyed my single years. And that is ultimately what the message of my book is about. 

When I published this book almost four years ago, I was told by mutliple people that my standards were too high and this "dream man" that I describe in my book doesn't exist.  I promise you, I didn't describe a "dream man."   I simply described a godly man who had the same high standards as I do and loves animals, and if that is too much to ask, then I will gladly stay single for the rest of my life! The world can say whatever they want about my "unrealistic expectations."  I have met the man I described in my book so I know they exist!  Trust me, there are good, godly men out there!  I refuse to settle!

Life is so short.  Eat the cheesecake.

If you are a single adult - This book is for you

 Being a single guy myself, it was cool to gain a peek inside the brain of a strong woman. This book is such a fun journey that explores tragedy, redemption, business success and finally learning to be comfortable in your singleness. This book is not just for women - Men can get a fresh perspective and I think you'll enjoy the humor Mills adds as well. The story is pretty hilarious at times. Mills relays a fresh perspective on the life of a single professional woman who has standards and knows what she wants. A really fun read, I highly recommend you give it a read too! 

The ultimate serving of both truth and humor!

 This book will absolutely challenge and ultimately change your perspective on being single. The author serves up an authentic mix of truth bombs and humor through sharing her own experiences and life lessons along the way. Even as a married woman, I walked away with an urge to do and be better as a spouse. We are left to reflect on our own unwavering expectations and standards in all relationships. Looking forward to the next helping served up by the author! 

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